Dear Woman,
A woman is so much more!
Dear Woman,
In case you are wondering, i am a WOMAN just like you- a daughter to my mother, a sibling, a friend and a lover. We are very much alike in respect to some of our feminine attributes. I hope this letter meets you in good condition and i hope, you’d get to smile after reading this lovely piece.
Embrace yourself, Uplift others!
Permit me to remind you of how greatly you’ve underestimated yourself– you have doubted your capabilities so much that you have tried to always and slowly cut down your standards and self-worth. You’ll also agree with me that you have for some unknown but norm-reasons accepted to be less of the person you (always wanted to be) truly are. It is time to take your power back and live fiercely!!
I am writing you this open letter because as a woman, I can relate with some of the things you have and are yet to experience. I know you need someone, a person who’d at least reach out to you in recognition that; what you are feeling is real!
Life is hard
Life’s tougher on this side of a woman’s world!
Life is hard! For a fact, it is even harder for us as we grow; regardless of our gender. I bet none of us envisaged all of these (the reality happening now!). I won’t say ‘our parents did a bad job at raising us’ we didn’t grow up well, but I feel that our parents mostly shielded us from the real reality- and for that sake- we’re being bombarded with life’s merits and demerits with little to no clue how to handle them.
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I feel your grief sister! I can clearly relate if you say you’re tired and exhausted, because, some of these activities are on a fast train of repetition: happening all over again- every single day! I think… I may have some of the answers you are searching for… just read to the end, please!?
Be unapologetic!
Unapologetic is the new fashion! I don’t know what your name is, but as a fellow woman, I need you to understand that, the journey is tougher on us women. My reason being that, we’re in a fast paced world and as swiftly as things take turn, so does our credibility and integrity. We are in a world where our gender clearly supports other gender and without a doubt, some women despise other women.
Dear sister, let me be straight with you; some other women will see you as a threat, a competition, an enemy and a rival. Truth is, there are more women who despise other women much more than men do. Honestly, why would anyone even hate a fellow human being!? I mean, it is okay to disagree with other people’s way of life because we all want different things, which everyone clearly has a right to… but why go all the way to make life miserable for a fellow human?
The answers would have been provided if only there are real answers to why people hate. However, the only way to shame them “haters” is to be unapologetic about yourself and all that concerns you. Naysayers and bashers are just out-rightly harsh because they want what you have.
Meanwhile sometimes, it may appear as though they have more money and stuff… but in the end, they are just unsatisfied with their own lives… making others feel miserable because punishing others for their own shortcomings seems like fun for them.
The only way to defeat these misogynists is by being brave and boldly unapologetic about your own life. It is totally worth it because you deserve goodness in its entirety.
Don’t forget… BE UNAPOLOGETIC!!
Don’t you worry your pretty self!
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Worry less, smile more!!
Gee!! I don’t know how else to resound this but, Don’t you worry about a thing! Life’s a roller-coaster, it can be whatever the heck you want it to be if you can focus all those worry energies into believing in yourself, your crafts, your career, your person and your dreams.
If for any reason you need something, just map out a plan for it and get to work. I know it is not magic, but the universe obeys whatsoever you tell it. When you work, believe in the results that are yet to come. While at it, speak life into everything you do… most importantly; you must give way to the universe- to God (if you are a believer)- so that those good results can truly be manifested.
I always believe that, if you try to play God, God will step aside… so why worry if it’s honestly not up to up?
Be unashamed!
A woman should be unashamed Don’t be ashamed to own up to your own shit. Those who literally look above their shoulders trying to paint a picture for others to commend them are clearly wasting their time. There’s no shame in being you, being whomever you chose to become. Sad truth is, whether or not you hide your smile or pride, the society is going to talk about you. If I were you;
I’d live boldly.
I’d embrace my truth so fiercely that no one else’s opinion could shake me.
People will always talk — that’s what they do.
So let them.Wear your scars like medals, your lessons like armor.
Stop editing yourself to fit into places that were never meant for your growth.
You owe no one perfection, just authenticity (be yourself).
Own your choices. Own your growth. Own your past.
That’s where real power lies.
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A reminder to be the best version of oneself… life is unfolding beautifully!
Because at the end of the day, the only approval that truly matters
is the one you give yourself.
…I won’t give two balls about what people say about me; instead I’ll be unapologetic and focus on living my own reality, as I ought to!!
It’s a free world lady!! Go on and live your life!
Pointers!!
Give second chances
Though everyone deserves a second chance, so do you! Therefore, in order to give people the good things they deserve that are solely in your care, you must extend that hand to yourself first. Afterall, you cant give what you don’t have!
Be sensitive
Most people believe sensitivity to be a sign of emotional weakness, but on the contrary. I believe that the word need more sensitive people, ones who are attune with their feelings. Everyone has feelings so be mindful of your actions and words… a lot of people are going through UNIMAGINABLE situations you have no idea of.
TREAT people better than you met them!!
Be your word
In whatever you do, try not to promise and fail anybody. If you must fail, make sure to inform the affected person beforehand or the deadline of fulfillment… I’ll tell you this for free, laying wait for someone in hopes that they fulfill their promise is the bravest thing anyone can do, but when that promise is not fulfilled, it breaks shatters the heart into a gazillion pieces.
Be polite
My mother always told me this as a kid, she said “The respect or kindness you give to others is for you, don’t ever think it is for them. You make peace because you require peace, and you give love cos you’re in need of it too”
Therefore, you must speak and act with kindness for it denotes compassion towards others…and when you speak to a person with kindness if their countenances change, apologize and be on your way… your kindness is not meant for them.
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Be Loving
Everyone deserves love! You may sometimes think the love you give is a gift to others… and that giving love means you are giving it for them. The hidden perk to it is; when you give love, you get love. It may sometimes be unrequited however, other times… you reap it from someplace unimaginable.
Be your own Joy:
It is your responsibility to be able to compliment and satisfy yourself as a person. You must earn to do right by you before you can maturely do right by others. If you can’t understand yourself enough to make you happy or self-sufficient, nobody else can.
If this message speaks to you, share it with a sister who needs to hear it today. Let’s break the cycle of comparison and build each other up.
Thank you for reading this piece… I may be writing subsequent letters in chapters later on… maybe to a teenage girl or a thirty-something year old.
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Sincerely yours,
Jaygirl!